Weddings!

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Congratulations to my long time buddy and closest friend in the Legal Practice on her recent marriage!
I was given the privilege of being one of her bridesmaids on this auspicious occasion and I thank her dearly for that.

Unfortunately I have no photos of my own to share as all the running around and lack of a purse meant no space to hold the camera, not to mention not knowing where I would've put it while the professional guy was directing poses. Still, I'm sure I remember all of us looking simply smashing!

A word on marriages though. In today's society it seems that more and more divorces are happening
just after a year of the actual wedding. Of course in Trinidadian Laws you can only file for divorce after a year of marriage has passed so I actually find some couples asking about divorce only a few months after the wedding and having to tell them they still have to wait until the year has passed. What ever happened to the sanctity of the union? What ever happened to marriage being a promise made before God? Why are these people getting married in the first place if after only a few months they decide they can't stand each other anymore?

Sometimes I believe that living with someone for a short while before actually getting married is a good thing, maybe even the better thing now-a-days, than just jumping from having your own bed to sharing one forever, in literally one night. The age old saying goes "you never really know a person until you live with them", I have experienced this first hand with my university flatmates. Many a people were either drawn closer or pulled apart by old habits and customs that really only come out when you're forced into a small space together for a more lengthy period of time. Maybe this way you can learn of your intended spouse's habits and decide whether you can deal with them or compromise on them before becoming contractually obligated toward each other?

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Perhaps this "trial period" is better suited for our "modern day" way of thinking since it seems that our elders were more willing to try as hard as it took and for as long as it took to make their decision last, and what's more interesting is that many of them didn't even make that decision themselves but were just pushed into it by family members and still they stuck it out. Divorces seem so easy to come by these days so it's as if the new mindset is "well lets try it, if we don't like it we'll just get divorced".

Of course there are the legitimate, life threatening, sanity threatening cases where a divorce is absolutely necessary but strangely enough, these aren't as common. In my experience anyway.

Kai